Find Your Inner Compass
This is a 12 - week-long program designed to help women gain clarity regarding their life paths and follow it with agency, passion, and power.
Does life often present you with situations of indecision and anxiety? Do you feel that you don't have enough energy to follow through with your plans and goals? Do you you feel that you yearn for deeper meaning and purpose in your life?
There is nothing wrong with you! You just need a better inner compass! It is not your fault! You didn't break your compass! You were just given a faulty one! This is what happens when women are socialized within patriarchies. Together we can fix and fine-tune your inner compass, so you know where you want to go and have the energy to get to places that you want to go in your life!
Why Do We need to Find Our Inner Compass?
As women, we are often embedded in social contexts that are not beneficial to us. Since childhood, we are bombarded with messages about how women should look like, behave, and what they should want from life.
No matter how self-aware and reflective you are, you have absorbed some of these messages. These messages are not value-neutral. They impose a system of values on your perception of the world. This system can create interference patterns for your authentic value system, much like a magnetic field creating interference for a compass.
By `authentic value system', I don't mean something mystical, divine, or pre-ordained. I mean values that you have endorsed consciously and reflectively, so whatever choice that you make, you are fully behind it. So you don’t live half-heartedly and don’t lose your energy in sabotaging choices that you made yesterday!
We need these fine-tuned compasses to navigate this world, because it was not particularly set up with our needs in mind! Just think about how our society regards women, women’s bodies, women's reproductive choices, women's work...Just think of all the women who have to make a choice between their careers and having children, that is a big life choice!
Now, think of an everyday choice that most women face over and over: choosing an outfit for a work function sometimes. That can take a lot of your time! You might need to look put-together, but not too pretty because you want to look serious too! How much makeup will you wear?
Women’s make-up-free faces are now somewhat normalized, but in many work-environments you are still considered a bit disheveled if you dare to show your natural face to the world! And what if it is the opposite: that you love wearing make-up but you work in a very male-dominant environment and a lot of make-up makes you even more conspicuous! Will you use your stunning turquoise eyeliner next morning when you are getting ready to go to work?
Then think of your life in a larger sense. What do you want your life to be about? What do you want to experience? What do you want to contribute to the world? Where do you want your life to go? Why are your compasses pointing to all these different directions? Some of them might be old, some may be broken and some may not even get you where you want to go!
Let’s make you a functioning compass and fine-tune it!
The Program
Throughout this program you will choose many small and big decisions for finding/making and fine-tuning your inner compass.
You will learn how to analyze any given situation in your life into its value-components and use your compass to make decisions that you are happy with. We will work on these decisions in the context of larger themes in your life such as your relationships, your work, your place in the world and the society.
01
Your Life Audit
We will get into gear by doing a life-audit. It means doing a through assessment of different aspects of your life, your aspirations, goals, and values. We will also gauge how aligned your current life is with your values.
02
Your Value - Map
In this week, we will look at your current value-map. We will assess all the values that currently guide your actions. Are they in tension? Are you torn between following one or the other often? We will also examine how you came to choose these values. Are they still yours? We will use this value-map in all other future weeks.
03
Your Body
In this week, you will examine your relationship with your body. Our bodies are often forgotten when we talk about our purpose and direction in life, but we move through the world in these bodies.
What is your body image? How comfortable are you in your body? After reflecting on these aspects of your life, you will do your first alignment exercise. You will examine some of the choices that you have to make in life in light of being an embodied creature. Then, you will use your value-map to assess your choices. Then, you will have a chance to modify one of the decisions that you often make in this context.
04
Your Health and Vitality
This is a deepening of the last week's work. You will think about your embodied experience in a larger and more long-term context and will repeat the value-map and alignment exercises. We will also examine the relationship between the alignment exercise and your inner compass.
05
Your Sense of Play
This week is focused on joy and sense of play in your life. How often do you feel joy and when do you feel it? How much do you value joy and play? What in your life takes up the space that could be filled with joy? We will take a look at a day's schedule and see what sparks with joy, Marie Kondo Style.
06
Your Creative Impulse
This week, we will look at what you want to create in your life. Then, we will see weather your life's structure and your current value-map are aligned with your creative impulses. Then, we will repeat the alignment exercise for one aspect of your life.
07
Your Vocation
What is the place of your career in your value-system? Is your career aligned with your values? I encourage you not to think about only your career and what pays the bill, but in terms of your vocation. Do you feel that you contribute to other people's lives through your career? This is a sour spot for many people, so we will do a few different alignment exercises this week.
08
Your Career Path
You will use the result of the alignment exercises to see the possibilities of modifying your career and your vocation.
09
Your Relationships
This week you will do a relationship audit. You will first make a list of all relationships in your life that are meaningful to you. What are the most important relationships in this list? How much time do you invest in these relationship? What do you value the most in your relationships? Do you act according to your values? And of course, you will do your alignment exercise.
10
Your Relationship Path
In this week, we will use the results of the alignment exercise from the previous week to see what steps are needed to bring the important relationships in your life into alignment.
11
You and the World
This week will use the work of all previous weeks to put your life in a larger context. What communities matter to you and how can you contribute to them? What do you want to contribute to the society? What are your larger social values and goals? What can you do to help the world?
12
Your Inner Compass
All our work culminates in this week. You have created and refined your value-map, and you have taken steps to bring different aspects of your life into alignment with your value-map. This is the beginning of your journey into a more meaningful, and purposeful life. Now, you have an inner compass that you have fine-tuned by all your reflections, alignment exercises, and decisions that you have made during this course. The work of this week articulates this inner compass and gets you started on charting your path.
Price and Payment Plans
You have two options for doing this program.
1. You can work on this program as a self-study course. You will receive 12 modules with lessons, exercises, and daily action plans, as weekly emails to work on at your own pace. In addition, you will have access to the course Facebook group which I monitor regularly to answer your questions. The price for this option is $175.
You can request a full refund for 15 days after purchasing the course.
2. Alternatively, you can do this program with the addition of 12 individual philosophical counseling sessions with me. This option works more like a coaching program. The price for this option is $975 which you can pay as a one-time payment or three monthly payments of $330.
You can request a refund for 15 days after the start of the program. However, if you have already had your individual sessions with me the price of the sessions ($100 per session) will be subtracted from the refund.